Author: Konstantin Kurdaliev
Romance has always been a very interesting and at the same time trivial subject matter. It is controversial mostly because everyone has their own view on the topic. The more people, the more opinions. The thing is that everyone considers themselves to be romantic, or rather – great lovers.
So we arrive at the common belief that unites a lot of people – romance is inextricably linked with sex! It is a mercenary act, intrinsically manifesting as a primal carnal intention. A luring and deceiving temptation, executed with tactful moderation, and at times sacrifices, but with one sneaky goal in mind. Let us try and analyse if this really is so.
Since we are delving into the topic, let’s ask ourselves when was the last time we did something really romantic?
If we want to give a final honest answer, we have to understand what “true romantic” really means. So we need an actual example. You might know that woman who used to sell roses at all bars in Plovdiv. The same one who never finished the sentence “A rose for the lady…”, because she knew on the spot that you are not buying in. I have the feeling she saw us through our teenage nightlife passions… Well, buying a rose from her is definitely not a true romantic move.
The strongest argument is that romance’s biggest enemy is to be trivial – pink, chocolate, soft toy love heart romance. Yes, ok, sometimes it really does the job, but nowadays the thorns of a rose symbolise the intentions of a prick. Unfortunately, this is what buying a rose at a bar speaks of, a desperate and dull macho show off.
In this regard I want to take the liberty of giving you one piece of advice, next time get a pair of socks with kitten ears from Mitko, everyone in Plovdiv knows him. Such a gift would show support for small businesses in our hometown, but also register as genuine care, and this is guaranteed to melt hearts and put you in a touchy feely mood. As the old saying goes “warm feet… breakfast in bed” or something along the lines.
The next question we should ask ourselves is, did we aim to achieve a particular goal to achieve by our romantic move? For the sake of clarity, the context of “goal” here can only mean one thing.
If by giving her a chocolate egg your goal was to assemble the toy together, give it a name and take a photo of it perched on a stone in the Old Town to post on Instagram with hashtags #appreciatethelittlethings #couplesgoals and #plovediv, then hands down you are as romantic as it gets!
On the other hand, if you buy a bottle of expensive wine and drink it by sunset at the Rowing Canal, chat about theatre, art, culture and other sophisticated topics, till your mouth is sore. Come dusk and you find a discreet “love” bench… eeenk, thanks for stopping by, not romantic at all, but you can call yourself a true player!
In summary – love is not a game. If we turn it into a game, then we are likely to be on the losing side quite often by wasting time, effort, money and most of all passion. Love requires intention, you should be creative, willing to sacrifice but don’t feel embarrassed, go a little crazy. We should put our ego aside and try something, that deep inside we might fear to be pointless, risky, and frankly fruitless, destined for failure but fun. In return we receive pure energy, we create new connections in our brain, we learn to be creative in overcoming limitations that we might have drawn ourselves. Romance is for brave beautiful souls, so be thoughtful and have a vision. Accept challenges and share happy emotions with your partner, because romance is amazing, mayna!